If you follow your head, do what will hopefully make you happier, is that really self love?
If you follow your heart (because hopefully that'll make you happier) surely that is self love as well?
You stay together for the kids, because he "needs" you, or whatever...are you really just avoiding guilt -the biggest self-love killer? And miraculously, your martyrdom fills you with warmth knowing "you're making the real sacrifice, because you're just so nice.."
If love is really an extension of self love...then in love there are no goodies, no baddies, everyone is still looking after number one. Surely?
But either way, I'm surely a baddie.
And situations change, you may always be looking for something different from the last time, then you wanted the real deal and now you can't commit your heart to more than a bit of fun... so you know it's more about you, it's not his fault, it's not the chick-flick cliche' "it's not you, it's me" it's true, really.. and you're sorry.
I'm always sorry, but what else is there to do?
